Taoism often describes effective action as wu wei—commonly translated as “non-action,” but better understood as action that does not strain against the grain of reality. The river is a model of wu wei: it moves, but it doesn’t tense. It acts, but it doesn’t force outcomes that the terrain won’t support.
This does not mean doing nothing when life destabilizes. It means choosing efforts that harmonize with current conditions. If a job ends, the forcing approach is obsessively trying to recreate yesterday; the river approach is scanning for adjacent openings—temporary work, training, networking—paths that exist now, not ones you wish still existed. [...]
