Turning Longing Into a Guiding Inner Compass
Let longing be a compass, not a chain. — Hafez
From Burden to Direction
Hafez’s line invites a subtle but radical shift: instead of treating longing as a weight that drags us backward, we can treat it as an instrument that points us forward. Longing as a chain suggests paralysis, rumination, and self-pity, while longing as a compass suggests orientation, movement, and choice. In this way, the same feeling that once seemed to confine us becomes a source of quiet instruction about where we truly wish to go.
What Our Yearnings Reveal
Moving deeper, the metaphor suggests that longing is not random; it encodes information about our deepest values and potential. Just as a compass needle aligns with an invisible magnetic field, our longings align with unseen needs for meaning, love, beauty, or truth. Mystical poets, including Hafez of Shiraz (14th century), often portrayed desire as a trace of the divine within the human heart—an inner arrow pointing beyond our current circumstances toward a fuller expression of the self.
The Danger of Becoming Enchained
However, when longing hardens into a chain, it keeps us circling the same unfulfilled story. Instead of learning from the ache, we become attached to it, replaying what might have been, who should have stayed, or which door should have opened. This chained state resembles what modern psychology calls rumination: a looping focus on loss that saps energy and narrows perspective. In such moments, the longing no longer points outward to possibility; it locks inward around regret.
Transforming Pain Into Navigation
To let longing act as a compass, we must treat it as information rather than identity. The question shifts from ‘Why don’t I have this?’ to ‘What does this ache tell me I care about?’ A person longing for creative expression, for example, might enroll in a small workshop rather than waiting for a perfect opportunity. Similarly, spiritual traditions—from Sufi poetry to Ignatian discernment—encourage examining our desires not to suppress them, but to sift them, allowing the most life-giving ones to set our course.
Walking Lightly with What You Seek
Ultimately, Hafez’s image points toward a gentler way of living with desire: we walk beside our longings instead of being dragged behind them. This means allowing desire to suggest directions while still accepting uncertainty and change. When we do so, even unfulfilled wishes retain dignity; they have helped steer our journey, shaping the choices and connections along the way. Thus longing becomes less a prison of ‘not yet’ and more a quiet compass, continually orienting us toward what feels most deeply true.