Happiness Through Mastery of Your Strengths
If you can do what you do best and be happy, you are further along in life than most people. — Malcolm S. Forbes
—What lingers after this line?
One-minute reflection
Where does this idea show up in your life right now?
A Practical Definition of Being “Ahead”
Malcolm S. Forbes reframes success as something quieter and more attainable than status: the ability to use your strongest skills while feeling genuinely content. Rather than measuring life by trophies or titles, he points to a rarer achievement—alignment between what you’re good at and what makes you glad to be doing it. In that sense, being “further along” is less about outpacing others and more about resolving an internal mismatch many people carry for years. This perspective immediately shifts the goalposts from comparison to clarity. Once progress is defined as fit—between talent and happiness—life becomes less of a race and more of a deliberate placement: finding where you function best and flourish most.
Doing What You Do Best as a Compass
The quote’s first hinge is competence: “what you do best.” That phrase suggests not mere preference but a kind of earned capacity—skills that reliably produce value, whether in art, caregiving, engineering, teaching, or leadership. Aristotle’s Nicomachean Ethics (c. 4th century BC) treats excellence as a habit developed through practice; Forbes echoes this by implying that progress involves recognizing and cultivating your natural and trained strengths. From there, the idea becomes directional. When you use your best abilities, feedback is clearer, momentum builds faster, and confidence becomes grounded rather than performative. Consequently, mastery acts like a compass: it points you toward environments where your contribution is both real and recognized.
Happiness as an Outcome of Fit, Not Fortune
The second hinge is “be happy,” which Forbes treats as neither naive nor incidental but central evidence that you’re on the right path. This isn’t the fleeting pleasure of applause; it’s the steadier satisfaction that comes from meaningful engagement. Modern research on well-being often distinguishes between momentary pleasure and deeper fulfillment—Martin Seligman’s PERMA model (2011), for example, highlights meaning and accomplishment as durable components of flourishing. As a result, happiness here functions like a diagnostic tool. If your daily work consistently drains you, even high achievement can feel hollow. Conversely, when your work fits your strengths and values, happiness becomes less of a reward you chase and more of a signal that your life is organized sustainably.
Why Most People Struggle to Reach This Point
Forbes’ comparison—“further along… than most people”—isn’t meant as arrogance; it’s an observation about common traps. Many people spend years optimizing for external scripts: prestige, salary, family expectations, or fear of instability. Others never get enough room to discover what they’re best at, because survival demands immediate practicality. Even in comfortable circumstances, social comparison can push people into roles they can perform but don’t actually want. An everyday example is the capable professional who keeps getting promoted into management, only to realize their happiest, highest-quality work happened when they were designing, writing, building, or solving problems directly. They may be “successful” on paper, yet further from Forbes’ version of being ahead.
The Meeting Point: Strengths, Values, and Service
When ability and happiness intersect, a third element often emerges: usefulness. Doing what you do best tends to create value for someone else, and that social contribution reinforces meaning. This is why the quote reads like a life strategy rather than a motivational line—skills become more satisfying when they serve a purpose beyond self-expression. Moreover, this intersection discourages the false choice between practicality and joy. If your strengths are real and your happiness is sustainable, you’re more likely to persist through difficulty, improve over time, and build a reputation that opens doors. In turn, each success makes the alignment easier to maintain.
A Quiet Metric for Real Progress
Ultimately, Forbes offers a simple test for where you stand: Can you reliably do your best kind of work, and do you feel glad—most days—that this is how you spend your time? If the answer is yes, you’ve solved a problem that wealth, status, and busyness can’t automatically solve: the problem of living in a way that fits. From that foundation, ambition becomes healthier. You can pursue growth without trying to prove your worth, and you can change course without seeing it as failure. Progress, then, is not the elimination of struggle but the choice of struggles that match your strengths and preserve your happiness.