Relax as it is, and the restlessness will subside by itself.
—What lingers after this line?
One-minute reflection
Where does this idea show up in your life right now?
A Gentle Instruction, Not a Command
“Relax as it is” points to an approach that begins with permission rather than force. Instead of trying to crush restlessness through willpower, the quote suggests softening around the present moment exactly as it appears. That shift matters, because the mind often becomes most agitated when it feels it must immediately change what it is experiencing. From there, the second half—“and the restlessness will subside by itself”—frames calm as a natural consequence of allowing, not an achievement to be wrestled from the body. The instruction is subtle: stop fighting experience, and experience reorganizes.
How Resistance Fuels Inner Agitation
Restlessness frequently persists because it is being resisted. When you think, “I shouldn’t feel like this,” the nervous system reads the moment as a problem to solve, amplifying tension and mental noise. In other words, the refusal of what is becomes an added layer of stress on top of the original discomfort. By contrast, relaxing “as it is” removes that extra layer. This resembles the principle behind many contemplative traditions: aversion intensifies suffering, while non-resistance reduces it. The transition is not dramatic—often it’s just a small unclenching—but it changes the feedback loop that keeps agitation alive.
Letting the Nervous System Complete Its Cycle
Once you stop bracing against the feeling, the body can do what it is built to do: self-regulate. Restlessness is often a sign of mobilized energy—stress chemistry, unspent arousal, or anxious anticipation. If the mind keeps pushing it away, that energy stays “stuck” and keeps signaling urgency. Relaxation, however, gives the system room to complete the cycle. Similar ideas appear in mindfulness-based stress reduction (Jon Kabat-Zinn, 1990), where observing sensations without judgment allows them to shift and fade naturally. The quote highlights this organic unwinding: calm emerges when the struggle stops feeding the fire.
Attention as a Place to Rest
Relaxing “as it is” also implies a change in where attention lives. Instead of chasing solutions in thought, you rest attention in immediate experience—breath, posture, sound, or the felt sense of unease itself. That doesn’t mean you like the restlessness; it means you stop treating it as an emergency. In practice, people often discover that the feeling is dynamic: it pulses, moves, intensifies, and diminishes. This is where the “by itself” becomes believable. By staying present, you witness impermanence directly, and the mind begins to trust that it doesn’t need to micromanage every inner wave.
The Paradox of Effortless Change
The quote carries a paradox: the quickest route to change is to stop trying to change. When you relax into the current state, you no longer add the strain of self-correction, and that absence of strain is precisely what allows the system to settle. In Zen, a related flavor appears in teachings about non-striving, where the aim is not to manufacture serenity but to stop obstructing it. A simple anecdote captures it: someone lies awake thinking, “I must sleep,” and stays tense for hours; when they finally give up and rest without demanding sleep, drowsiness arrives. The restlessness didn’t get defeated—it ran out of fuel.
What “Relax” Can Look Like in Daily Life
Applied day to day, relaxing “as it is” can be as small as dropping the shoulders, softening the jaw, or letting the breath be ordinary rather than controlled. It can also mean allowing thoughts to be noisy without arguing with them, like letting traffic pass while you remain on the sidewalk. Over time, this builds confidence that inner discomfort is tolerable and temporary. Still, the quote isn’t telling you to become passive about your life. It’s pointing to timing: first, stop fighting the present internally; then decide what action is wise. As the restlessness subsides on its own, clearer judgment often follows, and movement becomes less reactive and more deliberate.