Letting Go to Move Forward: Lessons from Monkey Bars
Created at: July 1, 2025
Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward. — C.S. Lewis
The Metaphor of Monkey Bars
C.S. Lewis draws a vivid comparison between overcoming pain and the simple act of crossing monkey bars on a playground. This metaphor instantly conjures an image of a child hesitating before letting go of one bar to clutch the next. Just as progression on monkey bars depends on releasing your grip, personal growth demands relinquishing what holds us back. The physical motion mirrors the emotional process: advancement is only possible when we gather the courage to let go.
Fear of Release and the Human Condition
Transitioning from the image, the fear of letting go is a universal experience. Psychologists have long recognized that our attachment to the familiar—even pain—can impede healing. As seen in Elisabeth Kübler-Ross’s work on grief (*On Death and Dying*, 1969), people often cling to hurtful memories or past experiences for comfort, even as they long for relief. In both play and life, uncertainty during the ‘letting go’ phase can be daunting, keeping us suspended between what was and what could be.
The Role of Trust and Momentum
To move from fear to action, trust becomes essential. Children on monkey bars must trust themselves—and sometimes a steadying hand nearby—to attempt the next grasp. Similarly, when working through pain, a sense of internal trust or faith in the future enables us to release what anchors us. Neuroscience highlights that momentum, once begun, can create a cascade of positive change—the first release, though terrifying, often makes subsequent steps easier.
Personal Narratives and Cultural Stories
Complementing this, countless narratives across cultures embrace the necessity of letting go. In Buddhist teachings, the practice of non-attachment emphasizes the freedom found in release. Augustine’s *Confessions* (AD 397–400) also recounts his struggle to let go of past behaviors before embracing a new path. These stories collectively reinforce Lewis’s point: growth is contingent upon the willingness to release pain and grasp what lies ahead.
Moving Forward: The Path to Renewal
Ultimately, Lewis’s analogy offers hope. Just as every successful crossing ends on solid ground, each act of letting go brings us closer to healing and renewal. Acknowledging the necessity of release transforms the daunting act into a passage of self-liberation. By accepting that pain must be left behind to move forward, we invite the possibility of new experiences and joys—one bar, one step at a time.