The Courage to Stubbornly Accept Our Gladness
Created at: August 10, 2025
We must risk delight. We must have the stubbornness to accept our gladness. — Jack Gilbert
Choosing Joy as a Form of Courage
Jack Gilbert’s imperative to "risk delight" reframes joy as an act of bravery rather than a soft indulgence. In a world that often rewards vigilance, suspicion, and doomscrolling, he asks us to step toward the vulnerable, luminous parts of life. This risk is not naïveté; it is a refusal to let despair monopolize our attention. By placing gladness within the realm of moral choice, Gilbert positions joy as an ethic—something we practice under pressure, not merely when circumstances are generous.
Gilbert’s Poem and Its Fierce Context
The line comes from "A Brief for the Defense" in Refusing Heaven (2005), a poem that surveys famine, war, and everyday grief while insisting that delight still belongs to us. Gilbert, who wrote elegies like "Michiko Dead" after the loss of his partner Michiko Nogami, knew sorrow intimately. Yet he contends that the world’s "ruthless furnace" does not nullify gladness; it intensifies its urgency. Thus, the poem’s insistence on delight is not denial but a hard-earned verdict rendered in full view of suffering.
Joy Without Evasion
A common worry is that accepting gladness ignores injustice. Gilbert anticipates this by warning, "To make injustice the only measure of our attention is to praise the Devil" (Refusing Heaven, 2005). The point is balance: refusing to be hypnotized by harm while still confronting it. Activists echo this insight; Audre Lorde’s assertion that self-care is "an act of political warfare" (1988) shows how replenishment fuels endurance. In this light, joy fortifies conscience, ensuring we can persist without burning out.
Psychology of Stubborn Gladness
Modern research clarifies why gladness must be stubborn. Barbara Fredrickson’s broaden-and-build theory (2001) shows positive emotions expand our thought–action repertoires, enhancing resilience, creativity, and social bonds. Meanwhile, Baumeister et al. (2001) document a "negativity bias"—bad events weigh more heavily than good—so delight requires counterforce. Practices like gratitude journaling (Emmons & McCullough, 2003) measurably increase well-being, suggesting that accepting gladness is not passive cheerfulness but a disciplined tilt against our brain’s survival-era alarms.
Older Echoes: From Talmud to Nietzsche
Gilbert’s call stands in a long lineage. The Jerusalem Talmud (Kiddushin 4:12) teaches that we may be accountable for joys available to us that we refused, implying that delight can be a duty. Nietzsche’s amor fati in The Gay Science (1882) urges loving one’s fate, not merely enduring it—embracing life whole, with its brightness and its bruise. Even Stoic practice, often misread as cold, trains perception to notice what is worthy of assent, making room for lucid gratitude.
Practices for Risking Delight Today
Translating the imperative into habit begins small. We can schedule deliberate savoring—one unhurried meal, a walk attentive to sound and light—so gladness becomes a rhythm, not a rare event. We can curate our information diet, pairing necessary witness with intervals of rest. Sharing specific, concrete joys with others turns private pleasure into communal resilience. And making something—two lines in a notebook, a photograph, a soup—grounds delight in action, where it can survive the day’s weather.