From Ordinary to Extraordinary Through Loving Persistence
Created at: September 28, 2025
Turn the ordinary into the extraordinary by persisting lovingly. — Octavio Paz
Paz’s Vision of Transformative Care
Octavio Paz—poet, essayist, and Nobel laureate—often treated attention as an act of love that reshapes reality. In The Double Flame (1993), he explores how eros and affection ignite creativity, while The Bow and the Lyre (1956) argues that poetic attention turns time into presence. Read in that light, “persisting lovingly” is not sentimental; it is a disciplined tenderness that makes the mundane luminous. Because Paz wrote across genres, he offers a bridge between feeling and form. His cyclic poem Sunstone (1957) shows repetition as discovery: each return reveals a new facet. Likewise, when we revisit ordinary tasks with care, we invite the extraordinary to appear—not by grand gestures, but by the steady pressure of affection over time.
Why Love Changes the Nature of Grit
Perseverance can be harsh, but love softens it without weakening resolve. Research on self-determination theory (Deci & Ryan, 2000) shows that intrinsic motivation—fueled by care and meaning—outperforms extrinsic pressure. Barbara Fredrickson’s broaden-and-build theory (2001) adds that positive emotions widen our field of perception, helping us see possibilities we would otherwise miss. Thus, loving persistence is not mere endurance; it is curiosity sustained. Angela Duckworth’s grit (2016) explains staying power, while Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi’s flow (1990) describes absorption in valuable challenges. Blend them with affection for the work or the person served, and perseverance turns from drudgery into devotion—a shift Paz would recognize as creative rather than coercive.
Craft, Ritual, and the Everyday Sublime
Moving from psychology to practice, craftsmanship shows how care elevates the ordinary. Richard Sennett’s The Craftsman (2008) argues that slow, attentive refinement dignifies both maker and material. Japanese traditions echo this: wabi-sabi esteems imperfect beauty (Leonard Koren, 1994), while kintsugi repairs broken bowls with gold, making scars the centerpiece of value. Ritual anchors this persistence. The tea ceremony (linked to Sen no Rikyū) turns pouring hot water into an ethics of attention. Likewise, a home cook perfecting bean soup or a gardener pruning roses embodies loving iteration. In each case, small gestures, repeated with regard for detail, invite the extraordinary to surface through the ordinary tool, bowl, or bloom.
Artistic Repetition as Revelation
Artists model how returning lovingly to the same subject unveils depth. Claude Monet’s Haystacks (1890–91) are near-identical compositions until light transforms them—proof that constancy plus attention yields discovery. Georgia O’Keeffe’s magnified flowers translate everyday petals into vast landscapes of color, insisting that scale and focus can redeem the familiar. Paz’s own poetics reinforce this stance. Sunstone’s circular form enacts recurrence without redundancy; meaning accretes with each turn. Such repetition is not monotony but pilgrimage: we pass again through the same gate to find a changed garden. Thus, persistence—when suffused with love—turns resemblance into revelation.
Small Steps, Great Depths: The Science
Empirical work backs the power of gentle iteration. Anders Ericsson’s research on deliberate practice (1993) shows that targeted, feedback-rich micro-improvements compound. James Clear’s Atomic Habits (2018) popularizes the 1% approach: tiny gains, consistently applied, produce exponential results. The Progress Principle (Amabile & Kramer, 2011) further reveals that noticing small wins sustains morale and momentum. Crucially, love guides where we iterate. Without affection, practice drifts toward burnout. With it, we choose improvements that honor people and purposes, not just metrics. Loving persistence, then, is both method and compass—optimizing for meaning as much as mastery.
From Self to City: Communal Persistence
Extending from individuals to places, care-filled repetition can renew communities. In Bogotá, Antanas Mockus’s civic culture campaigns (1995–97) used playful, persistent nudges—mimes directing traffic—to shift norms through affection rather than fear. Medellín’s library parks under Sergio Fajardo (2004–07) showed how sustained investment and esteem for neglected neighborhoods could reverse decline. Urbanists like Jane Jacobs (1961) remind us that “eyes on the street” are really hearts on the street—daily, attentive presence that transforms safety and belonging. Through placemaking (Project for Public Spaces), neighbors who persist in tending planters, benches, and rituals convert overlooked corners into cherished commons.
Making Extraordinary a Daily Practice
Returning to Paz’s imperative, extraordinary outcomes emerge from ordinary rituals done with love. Choose one humble task—writing a paragraph, sweeping a floor, greeting a colleague—and craft a short, repeatable ritual around it. Track small wins, invite feedback, and protect a mood of affectionate attention. Over time, the work will change—and so will you. As care refines skill, meaning deepens, and the ordinary reveals its hidden brilliance. Persist lovingly, and the extraordinary stops being a miracle; it becomes your method.