Let Deeds, Not Difficulties, Define Your Worth
Created at: October 9, 2025
Measure yourself by the actions you take, not by the obstacles you name. — Marcus Aurelius
From Excuses to Evidence
Often attributed to Marcus Aurelius, the maxim urges a shift from narrating impediments to demonstrating impact. Naming obstacles can feel clarifying, yet it risks becoming a substitute for motion. Instead, the standard becomes evidence: what you built, whom you helped, what you repaired. By re-centering on outcomes, the self is calibrated against reality rather than rhetoric.
Stoic Grounding: Control and Conduct
This emphasis on action traces to Stoic first principles. Epictetus’s Enchiridion 1 draws a bright line between what is up to us—judgments, choices, and actions—and what is not. Marcus’s Meditations returns to this discipline, prodding himself at dawn to rise and do the human work he was made for. He notes that impediments can advance action; what stands in the way can become the way, provided we respond with virtue. Thus the self is measured by deeds aligned with reasoned choice, not by the eloquence of our complaints.
The Psychology of Naming Obstacles
Modern research explains why listing barriers can backfire. Self-handicapping, identified by Berglas and Jones (1978), protects ego by publicizing hurdles—thereby excusing poor results before they occur. By contrast, Peter Gollwitzer’s work on implementation intentions (1999) shows that if-then plans convert intention into reliable behavior, especially under stress. Moreover, Rotter’s locus-of-control framework (1966) suggests that focusing on controllable actions cultivates an internal locus, strengthening persistence. In this light, the maxim translates into a cognitive pivot: fewer reasons, more steps.
History’s Quiet Proof: Deeds in Crisis
Historical practice reinforces the point. The Historia Augusta (Life of Marcus 17) recounts Marcus Aurelius auctioning palace treasures to fund military and civic needs—a public act that turned scarcity into support. Centuries later, Florence Nightingale’s sanitary reforms in the Crimean War were judged by outcomes: hospital mortality fell dramatically, as documented in her 1858 report with the now-iconic polar area diagrams. Across contexts, leaders earned trust not by cataloging adversity but by producing verifiable change.
A Practical Metric: Keep a Deeds Ledger
To operationalize the maxim, replace obstacle lists with a simple deeds ledger. Each day, record three concrete actions that moved a goal forward—sent the draft, made the call, shipped the fix. Pair this with if-then cues (e.g., “If it’s 8:30 a.m., then write the first email”) to lower activation energy. Weekly, review the ledger for patterns and upgrade one habit at a time. In doing so, you cultivate evidence that can be inspected, improved, and repeated.
Equity and Compassion: Obstacles Still Matter
Acknowledging real constraints is not the same as hiding behind them. Structural barriers, health limits, and resource gaps shape what is possible; the Stoic lens simply asks us to act where we can. Consequently, fairness is measured by actions taken to reduce those barriers—policy changes made, access expanded, supports delivered—rather than by speeches about difficulty. Compassion becomes concrete when it shows up in design and execution.
Closing the Loop: Turning Friction into Fuel
Finally, the saying invites a habit of transmutation: when friction appears, treat it as a signal to define the next doable step. The story you tell about the road is less decisive than the footprint you leave on it. By counting deeds, you keep score where it matters—on the field of action—allowing character and competence to grow from verifiable practice rather than from the poetry of obstacles.