From Wishing to Willing: Choosing Intentional Action
The most important thing in life is to stop saying 'I wish' and start saying 'I will.' — Anna Quindlen
From Wish to Will
Anna Quindlen’s injunction invites a decisive shift: move from the comfort of imagining to the discomfort of doing. A wish names desire; a will names direction. By replacing 'I wish' with 'I will,' we convert vague hope into a committed stance toward reality, accepting the weight of choice and the responsibility of follow-through. This pivot reshapes identity, because we become the kinds of people who act rather than merely aspire.
The Psychology of Intention
To translate resolve into results, psychology points to implementation intentions—if-then plans that pre‑decide behavior (Gollwitzer, 1999). Saying 'I will run at 7 a.m. in the park if it isn’t raining, and on the treadmill if it is' outsources willpower to a clear script. Likewise, the Theory of Planned Behavior shows that strong intentions coupled with perceived control predict action (Ajzen, 1991). Thus, Quindlen’s 'I will' is not empty bravado; it is the cognitive trigger that organizes context, timing, and obstacles into a practicable path.
Habits Make Will Visible
Yet even the best intention dissolves without repetition. Aristotle’s Nicomachean Ethics (Book II) argues that virtue is formed by habit; we become just by doing just acts. Centuries later, William James in The Principles of Psychology (1890) urged guarding the first act, because habits set like plaster. In this lineage, 'I will' is the spark, but routine is the flame that endures. By ritualizing small, daily steps, willpower is conserved, and identity coheres around consistent action.
Stories of Resolve in Motion
History and culture echo this pattern. John F. Kennedy’s 1962 pledge—'we choose to go to the Moon'—channeled a national 'we will' into engineers’ checklists and astronauts’ training, culminating in Apollo 11’s landing in 1969. On a personal scale, J. K. Rowling wrote in cafés, persisted through multiple rejections, and kept submitting until publication in 1997; perseverance turned a private vow into a public phenomenon. In both cases, a declarative will became coordinated, measurable effort.
Translating Will Into Plans
Practically, 'I will' gains traction when it specifies what, where, and when. The S.M.A.R.T. framing (Doran, 1981) compresses ambition into concrete targets; David Allen’s 'next actions' turn projects into the very next visible step (Getting Things Done, 2001). Moreover, lowering friction—laying out running shoes, scripting a call, pre‑drafting an email—makes the intended behavior the path of least resistance (Fogg, 2009). In this way, will becomes a design problem solved in advance.
Working with Fear and Setbacks
Even so, fear shadows every 'I will.' Stoic premeditatio malorum—rehearsing obstacles—helps convert anxiety into preparation (Seneca, Letters). Meanwhile, a growth mindset reframes failure as data rather than verdict (Dweck, 2006). By precommitting to post‑mortems—what worked, what didn’t, what to change—the inevitable stumbles become scaffolding. Thus, courage is not the absence of fear; it is the discipline of re‑engaging the plan after fear speaks.
Accountability and Shared Commitment
Finally, will strengthens in company. Commitment contracts raise follow‑through; deposit contracts for smoking cessation improved quit rates when people risked their own money (Giné, Karlan, and Zinman, 2010). Team dynamics can also elevate effort: the Köhler effect shows that weaker members increase exertion alongside stronger partners (Hertel, Kerr, and Messé, 2000). By making promises public and pairing with others, we turn 'I will' into 'we will,' multiplying both pressure and support.