Rachel Wolchin

Why Givers Must Set Firm Boundaries

Rachel Wolchin’s line distills a recurring social imbalance: people who naturally give—time, care, attention, money—often assume others will self-regulate their demands. However, “takers” operate differently, pursuing what they can get rather than what is fair, which means the relationship’s equilibrium doesn’t correct itself. As a result, the giver’s generosity can quietly become the very mechanism that enables overreach. From there, the quote shifts responsibility to the person most likely to be depleted: the giver. It’s not an accusation against giving; it’s an argument that generosity without limits invites a one-sided dynamic that grows more entrenched over time. [...]