Yung Pueblo

Outgrowing the Need to Be Understood

The “old perspective” describes how people often freeze others in time, treating past versions as the most credible reference point. Even when you evolve, someone may continue interacting with the memory of you—the agreeable friend, the constant helper, the person who never said no. This isn’t always malicious; it can be a comfort-seeking habit, a way to keep relationships predictable. However, when that habit hardens into certainty, your present self becomes inconvenient evidence. In that context, explaining yourself can feel like arguing with a historical record someone refuses to update. [...]

Healing Begins by Listening, Not Fixing

Yung Pueblo’s line reframes healing as a shift in relationship rather than a project of repair. “Fixing yourself” implies you are broken, turning inner life into a problem to solve and often keeping you in a perpetual state of self-critique. In contrast, “listening to yourself” suggests you are a living system with signals—emotions, sensations, desires, fatigue—that carry information. As this perspective settles in, healing becomes less about reaching an ideal version of you and more about returning to contact with what is already true. The goal moves from perfection to presence, where understanding replaces condemnation and curiosity replaces urgency. [...]