Easing Anxiety: Tackling Life One Step at a Time
Created at: May 15, 2025
Anxiety happens when you think you have to figure out everything all at once. — Karen Salmansohn
Understanding the Nature of Anxiety
To begin, Karen Salmansohn’s observation points to the heart of what drives much modern anxiety: the overwhelming sense that every problem must be solved immediately. Anxiety often emerges when we perceive uncertainty as a threat, feeling pressured to prepare for every possible outcome all at once. This mindset burdens the mind, creating a cycle where the pressure to find instant clarity only intensifies our distress.
The Illusion of Total Control
Expanding on this, there is a common misconception that we are responsible for orchestrating every aspect of our lives with perfect foresight. The desire for control is understandable, but when it shifts into expecting ourselves to anticipate and solve every future twist, anxiety naturally follows. Ancient Stoic writers like Epictetus emphasized focusing our energy only on what we can control, cautioning against the fruitless worry that arises from trying to manage the uncontrollable.
Breaking Tasks Into Manageable Steps
Recognizing the paralysis that comes from ‘figuring out everything all at once,’ psychologists often recommend breaking challenges into smaller, more manageable steps. This incremental approach—sometimes called ‘chunking’—reduces cognitive overload and provides a sense of accomplishment with each completed task. For instance, the productivity expert David Allen advocates a “next action” mentality in his book ‘Getting Things Done’ (2001), which encourages tackling only what is presently actionable.
Mindfulness and Present-Moment Focus
Mindfulness teaching further supports Salmansohn’s insight by promoting awareness of the present instead of constant future planning. When anxiety tempts us to mentally ‘fast-forward’ through every potential scenario, mindfulness anchors us in the now—reducing spiraling worry. Research repeatedly shows that mindfulness-based techniques, such as focused breathing or grounding exercises, can interrupt anxious cycles and restore emotional balance (Kabat-Zinn, 1990).
Cultivating Self-Compassion
Ultimately, learning to accept that we don’t need all the answers at once fosters self-compassion. By granting ourselves permission to move forward step by step, anxiety loses its grip. Real progress is made with patience and kindness toward oneself, recognizing—as Salmansohn hints—that clarity unfolds gradually, not instantly. Life’s challenges are best faced one piece at a time, allowing both resilience and calm to grow.