A Pocket of Wonder Draws Companions to You
Created at: September 8, 2025
Carry a pocket of wonder and you will never travel without companions. — Rumi
What Rumi Means by a Pocket of Wonder
Rumi’s line suggests that wonder is not a rare event but a portable stance toward reality. A 'pocket' implies something you carry by choice; when you keep curiosity within reach, ordinary moments become invitations rather than obstacles. Consequently, the traveler is never alone, because wonder naturally seeks connection—with people, places, and meanings that might otherwise pass unnoticed. In Rumi’s Sufi imagination, companions include more than fellow walkers; they also include the living presence of the world and the inner guest of awareness. Thus, by choosing to notice, to ask, and to receive, we populate our path with relationships that make the road feel inhabited.
Sufi Roots: Sohbet and Shams
Historically, Rumi’s life dramatizes this companionship through wonder. In 1244, a startling conversation with the wandering mystic Shams of Tabriz transformed him from jurist to ecstatic poet; their sohbet—spiritual discourse—became a furnace of attention that forged lifelong poetry. The Masnavi (c. 1258–1273) and the discourses in Fihi Ma Fihi portray how dialogue, lit by astonishment, turns strangers into teachers. In this light, the 'pocket of wonder' is like a beacon: it summons the right companions when the heart is ready, just as Shams appeared when Rumi’s questions had ripened.
Curiosity as a Social Magnet
Psychologically, curiosity invites closeness. The self-expansion model (Aron & Aron, 1986) proposes that people bond by exploring novel experiences together, while research summarized by Todd Kashdan (Curious?, 2009) shows that curious people initiate more conversations and report richer relationships. Wonder signals openness, and openness feels safe and energizing to others. Consider a traveler who notices the pattern on a baker’s loaves and asks how it’s made; a lesson in braiding becomes a shared story, and a stranger becomes a guide. Thus the simple act of noticing functions as social gravity, drawing companions into orbit.
On the Road, Wonder Remaps the Journey
On the ground, wonder changes what counts as the journey. Missing a train might ordinarily be misfortune; yet pausing to listen to a street musician can open a conversation that leads to a neighborhood meal. John Muir’s line—'When we try to pick out anything by itself, we find it hitched to everything else in the Universe' (My First Summer in the Sierra, 1911)—captures the same geometry: attention reveals connections that create company. Likewise, William Blake’s invitation to 'see a world in a grain of sand' (Auguries of Innocence, c. 1803) reminds us that scale collapses when we look with wonder; the smallest detail becomes a meeting place.
Practices for Carrying Wonder
Practically, a pocket of wonder can be stocked. Carry a tiny notebook or phone note for 'five new things' you notice each day; the hunt itself awakens curiosity. Learn three local phrases—greetings, gratitude, and one sincere question—because language is a door. Ask hosts and strangers for the story behind ordinary objects: a keychain, a bus ticket, a tree’s name. Finally, adopt shoshin, the Zen 'beginner’s mind,' by pausing to ask, What am I assuming here? Each of these practices makes you interruptible, and it is in the interruptions that companions step forward.
The Ethical Horizon of Awe
Ultimately, wonder widens belonging. Studies of awe show that feeling small in the presence of vastness increases generosity and cooperation; Piff et al. (2015) found that awe nudges people toward prosocial choices. When your attention honors more than yourself, others feel invited into a shared field rather than inspected from a distance. In this way, carrying wonder does not just attract companions; it also makes you a better companion—one who listens, delights, and leaves places more connected than you found them.