#Inner Self

Rest as a Gateway to Inner Healing

Hersey’s phrase “deepest selves” points to a version of identity that exists beneath roles and output. Much of modern life rewards performance—being useful, responsive, impressive—so the self can become entangled with what it produces. Rest interrupts that loop by temporarily removing the usual metrics that say who we are. Consequently, rest can surface neglected truths: grief that never got time, joy that got postponed, fatigue that was moralized into “laziness.” In the quiet, we may rediscover preferences, boundaries, and desires that were crowded out by constant doing. [...]

Be the Sky, Not the Weather

Once the metaphor lands, “weather” becomes an everyday inventory: anxiety before a meeting, irritation in traffic, a burst of confidence, a disappointing message. These inner and outer conditions roll through like storms and sunbreaks, and their impermanence is part of their nature. In Buddhist teaching, this aligns with the observation of constant change (anicca). Rather than making a permanent home in any one mental state, the quote encourages recognizing each state as a temporary pattern—real, felt, and yet not fixed. [...]

Be the Sky, Not the Weather

Moving from philosophy to practice, the quote functions like a compact meditation instruction: rest as the knowing, not the known. In mindfulness practice, you repeatedly return to the stance of observing—breath by breath—letting sensations, thoughts, and emotions arise and dissolve without chasing or suppressing them. A simple application is to sit for two minutes and label experience softly: “thinking,” “tightness,” “sadness,” “planning.” The labels are not meant to analyze; they’re reminders that weather is happening. The sky-like quality is the capacity to know it all without being swept away. [...]

Finding Inner Space Beyond Passing Moods

Finally, the metaphor widens beyond self-management into compassion. If your inner turmoil is weather, so is everyone else’s. The colleague’s coldness, the partner’s irritability, even your own reactivity can be seen as temporary conditions rather than fixed character flaws. This doesn’t excuse harm, but it reduces the impulse to essentialize and condemn. Chödrön’s broader teaching—echoed in works like her book *When Things Fall Apart* (1996)—often emphasizes staying present with discomfort without hardening. Seeing yourself as sky makes room for tenderness: storms can be intense, yet the sky remains, capable of holding it all. [...]

Be the Sky, Not the Weather

Finally, the quote invites a daily discipline: return to the sky again and again. In conversation, you might notice irritation rising and silently label it “weather,” creating enough space to respond rather than snap. During self-criticism, you might recognize the familiar cloud of harsh thoughts and choose not to treat it as objective truth. With repetition, this becomes less like a technique and more like a baseline orientation. Life keeps producing weather—deadlines, losses, surprises, delights—but awareness can remain hospitable. The promise isn’t a storm-free existence; it’s the growing confidence that you can meet any forecast without losing your inner vastness. [...]

Be the Sky, Not the Weather

From the metaphor, the next step is discrimination: noticing the difference between awareness and the contents of awareness. In Buddhist teachings, this resembles the practice of observing thoughts and feelings as events rather than as a self, echoing the broader tradition of mindfulness found in texts like the Satipaṭṭhāna Sutta (often dated to early Buddhism) where one learns to contemplate mental states as mental states. As this distinction becomes clearer, a new kind of freedom appears. Anger can be present without becoming “I am angry,” and sadness can be felt without becoming “I am broken.” The weather still happens, but it no longer automatically claims ownership of your identity. [...]

Be the Sky, Not the Weather

Next comes the method: mindfulness trains attention to stay present with whatever arises, the way one might watch clouds move without chasing them. In Buddhist practice, this resembles observing thoughts and feelings as phenomena—events in awareness—rather than directives that must be obeyed. Chödrön’s teaching aligns with this broader tradition of cultivating a witness-like stability. Over time, the mind learns that sensations peak and subside on their own. Like a squall that seems endless until it suddenly breaks, emotions often change when met with patient, nonreactive attention. [...]